Be a Goldfish

Be a Goldfish

How long is it healthy to regret your worst error? (I’m working on a streak of about 46 years.) Goldfish have a working memory of about 10 seconds. In the exceptional new show “Ted Lasso” about a coach and his team, the title character dispenses some...
Blursday for Parents

Blursday for Parents

Raising and educating kids is hard work that requires a ton of resources and support. It is an investment in our future. So… Why do we treat parents so poorly? Last summer, I sat down to write a book to give parents what they were going to need to face a school...
Learning to Fall

Learning to Fall

The nature trail around Haverford College is one of my favorite places to run. The trail weaves through trees that offer lovely shade and coolness. But those benefits also come with costs: sometimes the trees’ roots protrude through the gravel like little knuckles....
Wait! What?

Wait! What?

Image: young girl in a ruffled dress, looking to the side in surprise, eyes wide and mouth agape, seated with her hands flat on a table, with a white frosted cupcake untouched on a plate in front of her. Photo credit: Nathan Bingle/Unsplash “What if we are doing it...
Do you feel safe?

Do you feel safe?

How hard has the pandemic hit your family? The pandemic has fallen on our society like rain on a staircase, running more easily off the privileged top steps and deluging the families on the lower rungs with a flood of accumulated intensity. Walking through wealthy...
I Concede

I Concede

photo credit: Claudia Barbosa/Pexels Last week, we saw politicians across the country lose their quests for state and federal positions. When they decided that their campaign season was over, they got to make a call: “I concede.” When is your season over?...
Choosing Hope with Emily Fletcher

Choosing Hope with Emily Fletcher

“School is so different. It kinda sucks.” – Every student I counsel “Everything is going so fast right now. What day is it again?” – Every Parent I coach In the pandemic, it’s hard to remember what month it is. Has time just sped up since March? When we...
Pandemic of Stress

Pandemic of Stress

You are already infected. Without knowing how to avoid COVID, we spin in circles from hand-washing to wearing masks. The uncertainty causes a secondary pandemic that has already infected us all: the flood of cortisol and other stress hormones. As a Positive...
What is school (really) for?

What is school (really) for?

It was just another Thursday at work but I felt angry. On February 15, 2018, I showed up at my school in Southwest Philly the day after the shooting massacre in Parkland, Florida. I expected something to shift. However, on that Thursday, I could see that my job was...
Why there is so much shame in parenting?

Why there is so much shame in parenting?

Things you find yourself saying when you become a parent:  — Don’t make me count! — Just eat it. — I *was* listening. — Slow down! What’s the rush? — One!… Two!… Two-and-a-half… And my favorite, usually comes later, but every generation says...