The Kick-Ass Blog

Why do *I* have to say I’m sorry?

Why do *I* have to say I’m sorry?

I'm sorry. The most powerful two-word phrase in the English language …and every language: I'm sorry. Why is it so powerful to hear “I'm sorry”? Because “I'm sorry” can repair the hurt that I caused you. A true apology can rebuild and strengthen our relationship. Why...

Why isn’t Bambi manly?

Why isn’t Bambi manly?

“Why didn't you honk at him?!” my wife Betsy demands, exasperated and angry with the driver who just cut us off. She would have laid on the horn but I swerved instead. Betsy's question immediately triggers shame. Real men fight for their space. We are supposed to...

What Am I Feeling?

What Am I Feeling?

“Fellas, you HAVE to cry. If you don’t cry, you’re gonna kill somebody!” - comedian Nore Davis What can you do if you don’t know what you are feeling? What if you can’t even label them? Don’t laugh. I have been that guy. I was flying to Montreal to break up with my...

Did I Prepare My Kids?

Did I Prepare My Kids?

“Is this going to give me nightmares?”My wife never got over when I took her to see “Se7en.” She was right to be concerned. I forgot to tell her that 99 percent of the world dies in the new show that I pulled up. Oops! Back in the 90’s, when we went to the Bala...

I’m not OK

I’m not OK

I’m not OK. I just can’t tell you. Yesterday I shared how asking “Are you OK?” can break the cycle of “I’m fine.” A few of you told me that you tried this with the Dads in your life (Good job!) but still got a version of the answer “I’m fine.” From having worked with...

R U OK?

R U OK?

No one asks Dad how he is doing. Try it. Ask the Dad in your life, “Are you OK?” They don’t need to be YOUR Dad. They can be your friend, your partner, your sibling, or someone’s uncle. You don’t have to play the game of “How are you?” and “I’m fine.” Instead, ask two...