The last couple of years have proven one thing. We have NO IDEA what’s coming next.

Dads are trained to prepare for the worst. We were raised as boys to adopt a warrior mindset, ready to defend ourselves against bullies and all aggressors. As men, then as fathers, and now as Dads, we protect our own.

Like warriors, we learned to watch the horizon and anticipate the downside. A sense of our own mortality comes with this training.

Each day, like a warrior going off to battle, Dads make sure that “things are in order” …just in case.

Like many Dads, my sense of mortality comes naturally, from the men in my family dying too young. This is the great tragedy in my life: that I never met my grandfather and that my Dad never met our kids.

I’m changing that story. I will survive.

To change that story, I am intentional in how I live, every day.

My routines like meditating and fitness (flexibility, strength, balance, endurance) are important to me. I rely on the people who support me including the Love of my Life, our kids, my friends, my therapist, and my coach.

I think carefully about what I choose to eat and how I relax and replenish. I make it a priority to connect with the people I love.

Take a moment to look at the priorities that your life has arranged for you. What is one small thing that you can do today to take control of your narrative?

How you live today is how you live every day. Start small.

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If you are ready to start small to take control, save your spot in the next cohort of Be The Best Dad Ever!

This six-week program is designed to save you time by showing you an exit ramp from the exhausting work of feeling not-good-enough and not-man-enough. You don’t need to ride these treadmills to be happy and feel connected. The Best Dad Ever program provides better options that enable you to step off.

Be The Best Dad Ever is a relatively short program that packs a lot of material. It is a tasting menu that I have curated from the best approaches and insights that I have come across in my own search to upgrade the parent and partner that I am being with my wife and kids. Register here!